“Hallelujah, I am glad to be alive,” thankfully proclaimed “Fix My Life” counselor and coach Iyanla Vanzant during the 23rd annual ESSENCE Festival in New Orleans. The audience in loving support, enthusiastically encircled her as she sauntered to the Empowerment stage on July 1st.

Iyanla, who hails from Bedford Stuyvesant, Brooklyn knows a lot about pain, suffering, and healing.

Last year, Iyanla, weak and helpless, lay on a hospital operating table surrounded by medical staffers, she said, could have been” Trump supporters.” Yet, she miraculously survived a life-threatening colon rupture. Vanzant had been a scheduled keynote speaker for the 2016 ESSENCE Festival. Because of her medical emergency, she asked Oprah Winfrey to speak in her stead.

Now fully recuperated and radiating power and strength, Vanzant boldly professed, “it’s hard out here for a pimp — get yourself a spiritual code of conduct.” Following a spiritual code of conduct is necessary in today’s world because so many of us are suffering – living for external validation.

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A spiritual code of conduct provides a guideline for behavior that fosters physical, mental, and emotional health grounded in a spiritual belief system. The code, which helps us distinguish between right and wrong, must be taken seriously. Remain cognizant of your intention, the situation at hand, and follow the do’s and don’ts of the code:

1) DO – ground yourself spiritually everyday.

Do you trust in something bigger than you? Researchers have found that believing in God, the Creator, or a Universal Power is not only good for your physical health, but especially good for your mental health.

2) DO – know who you are at the root of your core.

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What are your core values: honesty, reliability, responsibility, integrity, faithfulness, loyalty, wisdom, security, flexibility, or just having fun? What is your truth? An ancient Egyptian proverb says, “the Kingdom of Heaven is within you; and whosoever shall know himself shall find it.” So how do you find yourself? Iyanla says, “sit down, shut up, and listen.”

3) DO – ask for what you want and don’t settle for something else.

When you ask for something, believe you can get it. Stop thinking you have to work hard for your blessings! See it, talk about it, and know it is yours. Dismiss the negative self-talk that says you are unworthy, you couldn’t possibly afford it, achieve it, or be it.

4) DON’T – accept the unacceptable.

This goes back to knowing your core values. For example, do not let people lie to you. Confront them immediately and start by addressing them with the word, beloved. “Beloved, I know you think that’s true, but something in here is not feeling it, so I’m not gonna move until it feels better in my belly.” You have just used Iyanla’s assertive adult approach, stood up for yourself, and have not been confrontational. How can anyone be mad at you when you address them in such a way?

5) DON’T – move until you have a vision.

This supports the code, ask for what you want and don’t settle for less. Can you see what you want clearly? Can you see it on the inside? If you can’t see it, nothing will happen. Visions come from doing the work. If it’s a new house you need, see the neighborhood, the type of house, the doors, windows, rooms, and walls. See the purchase price, closing costs, mortgage amount, and see yourself sealing the deal – get the picture?

6) DON’T – stay where you don’t want to be.

Don’t stay where you don’t want to be because you feel you have no where else to be. How many times do we or our coworkers say, thank God it’s Friday? We are working in jobs we hate, doing things we hate because we think that’s it and we can’t do better. Life is so much bigger than our limitations.

For more of Iyanla Vanzant’s do’s and don’ts of getting yourself a spiritual code of conduct, go to the visit here. You can also stay connected to Iyanla with her weekly YouTube series “The R Spot.” She dishes out tools, information and insights about the intricacies of all types of relationships. While the world goes crazy, stay centered, connected, and informed — subscribe here now.